Recently several people I really care about are no longer apart of my life. It’s not easy; relationship breakdowns especially family related can be among the most painful experiences in life. Loss of any kind is tough, but loss like this can sting like none other.
I wrote a previous post touching on the subject of “Why” which you can read here. After this was posted it stirred up a few emotions from myself and of course the people I was talking about. Without going into too much detail I’ll say it ruffled a few feathers and I got a stern telling off. This annoyed me as let’s not forget I’m 26 so hardly a child requiring discipline but more that a few more lies were told & let’s just say my little corner of the internet became the talk of quite a few people.
Which got me thinking I can’t possibly be alone experiencing situations like this, I’m quite headstrong so backing me into a corner won’t leave me cowering for cover it will more than likely end badly. However what about the people who aren’t as outspoken? The people who feel bullied, alienated.
Here are a few strategies to get you through.
1. GET OFF SOCIAL MEDIA, at least for a while. Trust me Otherwise the automatic impulse to check your phone will re-trigger you again and again. i’ve read comments about myself from people who don’t even know me, it’s annoying but tit for tat will not solve anything (if you want things solving) it will just make you feel worse.
2. LEAN ON THOSE CLOSE TO YOU. Don’t bury your emotions what’s happening if unexpected will knock you for six. Your only Human , if you need to cry do so. Have somebody you can speak to. This is the time to surround yourself with good people, unbiased opinions and discuss the situation amicably.
3. KEEP BUSY. This is a must the last thing you want to do is sit around overthinking.
4. GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION TO GRIEVE. Let me explain this one…. This May sound extreme especially if the person isn’t dead BUT I’m assuming this person or people were apart of your life, involved in everything you do. This will be a big change realistically your life as you know it is going to change.
5. PUT EVERYTHING INTO PERSPECTIVE. Life is our teacher, you live and you learn.
“Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.”
Lesson to learn from this quote – Being angry at someone hurts only you. Let go of your anger, not for the other person, but for yourself. Remember, forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting. Forgiving means accepting that it happened.
6. TRUST YOUR INTUITION. Never discredit your gut feelings, your brain can be fooled but that feeling you just can’t shake is the real truth.
7. PUT YOURSELF FIRST. Avoid people who mess with your head & intentionally and repeatedly do things they know upset you. Look after yourself, Write to get your feelings out.
8. And lastly TIME DISCOVERS TRUTH
– Remember that everything provides a lesson and an opportunity to grow. Yes, there will be good days, and bad days, but soon the good will outnumber the bad.
Get ready to emerge as a stronger and wiser version of yourself.